EDITING

I got a message from a women who felt I was judging in my last post. She felt I was disrespecting those who choose to work & "ditch their kid out to daycare." I didn't mean it that way. It was a personal, reactionary post. This is not The New York times, folks.

We all need support, that is why I posted about feeling judged regarding the choices myself and family have made. Judging other people is the opposite of what I am trying to do here.

The term "ditched my kid out to daycare" could have been traded for a less incendiary term, but this is my vernacular and this is my place in the ether to write.

I was having a discussion Last week about how sick I'd become regarding people seemingly competing about what is the best way. The Best Way is the way that works for each family.

I thank this person for for piping up and letting me know I was "pretty judgy-sounding". I thought it was obvious I was responding to being made to feel poorly for staying at home.

Part of me thought she was just being a tad shirty - I felt should know me well enough to give me the benefit of the doubt. I took that personally.

Lesson: When you throw your words into the ether, you can't take them back. When you don't edit carefully, you can't blame other people for your missteps.

Of course, I am still going to write. I am going to piss people off without meaning to. I'm going to fuck up. I'm going to learn lessons. I'm a better person for trying. Always have been.